Men

It never ceases to amaze me when grown men start the exploration of the female species in search of a relationship.

It's rather endearing to watch you change your tone of voice, your inflections in speech, watch how you dress differently and mind your mannerisms.  Sometimes, it's in such vast contrast that it becomes shocking and alluring all at the same time.

Now here's where you really get interesting.  It's when you want to have a "conversation".  Most men I know have little conversation.  It's not that they don't talk, they just don't talk THAT MUCH.  But, it's ok-- because it's all part of the exploration.  You're appealing to a woman's ears, which connect to her heart.  I can appreciate that.

Four hours later, after maybe a plate of this or that, a cocktail or two-- the conversation ends.  

"Shall we do this again?"- you ask... which must mean you have some level of interest, otherwise why keep talking right?

The next meeting is more for show.  You have deciphered the female, you now know what it is you want to show her.  You go into "Peacock Mode"- and even bring out the heavy artillery.  Cigars.  Twelve-Year Old Whiskey. Old stories or photos that show how you once were. Your Perfectly Pressed Dress Shirt-- all in the name of showing her that you listened all along and here you were in the flesh.

Here's the problem.

She liked you anyway.  All of that never really mattered.  And in the next four hours that commence, you begin to wonder if you made a mistake.  She is far deeper than you imagined, and even all the cigar smoke, whiskey, pictures and starch can't quite cut it.

This time as the conversation gets deeper, you may begin to understand what she is really saying. If you didn't, here's some help.

All the accessories weren't required.  If she invested the time, you're worth it.  

You didn't need to smoke that cigar, or drink the whiskey.  

You're investment of the first four hours were plenty.  

She liked you when you were having all that conversation, when you were your true self and appreciated her the same.

You finish the night and part ways.  "We will see each other very soon...", you say.

Even after all that, the ball is in your court. 

She is still waiting for you to call, and even when you don't call then-- she might still be waiting after all those years.

Trust your "Hunter Mode" fellas... You had her at hello.